Mike Elroy Coffey, 34

Sept. 3, 2009, 1:48 a.m.

Mike Elroy Coffey, a 34-year-old white male, died Thursday, Sept. 3, after sustaining blunt force trauma in Sunland, according to Los Angeles County coroner's records.

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Karin:

Obviously, Kaitlyn is still a young girl but that doesn't mean she can't be a lady. For example in your case you may be an older woman but by no means a lady at all. A lady would be someone that has class. By reading the post you post it is obvious that you have zero class.

You are a vicious beast and a predator and you should quit attacking people just because you are so unhappy with yourself, your life, and your accomplishments.

Stop being so hateful and ugly and try and think about the purpose of this site? Do you think it is supposed to be a site where horrific people like you are to come and dictate what type of feelings someone should be having about someone that they have lost?

Can you put your children in Kaitlyn’s situation? Think about how you would react to someone like you writing the things you have to her or about her and completely disregarding her as a human being who is capable of forming her own opinions. I didn’t think so.

Like I said before you need some serious counseling! Maybe you should focus on healing rather than attacking people the way you have on this site.

— Stunned Nov. 5, 2012 at 11:08 a.m.

@Karin,
How could I influence her? I've never met her. You make no sense, saying she is in grief over the loss the adults have pounded into her head? Ummmm.....I think she is upset that her dad died. It's not the stuff or weather she knows how to use it. It's the fact that it was his, something he held in his hands. I don't get why you are so cold to that. Maybe you should stop trying to minimize the situation. "See a 12 year old doesn't really care about that stuff...." Like I said, who made you the feeling police? You know what ALL 12 year old girls care about when their father's pass away? "it isn't your fight let the old people deal with the stuff." Yea, cause you got rid of it. You know you did the wrong thing. My favorite part is where you tell her not to let her wings get clipped by all those hard feelings. You must mean the feelings you created. If you can't give her love and compassion without injecting your guilty feelings, you should back off. You clipped her wings, and are still holding the scissors.

— Ms. Lee Nov. 4, 2012 at 3:31 a.m.

A friend of mine ran into this site and has been reading along. He told me about it and I couldn’t believe what I was hearing so I had to see for myself. It truly amazes me that some people could be so hateful and malicious that they would attack a young girl who has lost her father.

So I thought to myself what would make “Grown Women” act like this? I couldn’t think of anything because I am a mother myself and I can’t imagine for one second behaving in such inappropriate ways. I am also not a malicious person so I can’t imagine saying the things that have been said on this forum.

As a responsible, honest, compassionate person I can tell you that this really should be a non-issue. If someone’s parent is passes away and they are the next in kin then ANYTHING that belongs to that person who passed should go to HIS next in kin. Bottom line, right is right.

As for the lady with serious issues who should probably look into a lot of counseling Wills don’t mean a thing in the state of California. He would have had to have a trust set-up. So maybe you should look into this in case something happens to you and your children don’t end up in a similar situation as Kaitlyn…..Seriously can you imagine anyone talking to one of your babies like you have done after losing their parent? Shame on you!

As for the thief that started this entire mess, I am sure glad I don’t know her. In fact I feel for anyone who chooses to get involved with someone of her “caliber”

As for the true victim in this entire situation, you sound like a very bright young lady. You should try and focus on you and making your Daddy proud. I truly believe he is watching out for you every day.

I also encourage you to learn from this situation and realize that just because you’re an adult doesn’t make you smart. In fact I think you are smarter and more mature than certain individuals who have been commenting here. You can also learn from these “women” on how not to behave. Also think about the type of lives these women live, and then ask yourself, “Is this the type of life I want to lead?”

I didn’t think so and I don’t think your Daddy would either. I am sure you know deep down inside that you are much better than that and you deserve an amazing life full of joy and happiness. From just reading your posts I think you are such a strong and bright young lady that one day you will be able to look back at this and think, "Wow I feel really bad that these women didn’t have someone that loved them as much as my Daddy loved me"

Keep up the good work and never let ANYONE try and bring you down to their level!

— Stunned Nov. 1, 2012 at 11:17 a.m.

Ms. Coffey,

No, see I had my first child at 25 a boy who is now 15 years old, at the time of his birth I had been at my job for 5 years. I stayed at home with him for the 1st year and then went back to work. A few months after going back to work I had to update my medical forms, and my benifactor forms. As I was doing that I got on the computer and wrote up a quick note about what I wanted done with my things and child should I die. I was only 27 and my child was only a year old. One can have a will at anytime and age has nothing to do with it. The game...it what you are doing. You are putting yourself out there in public for anyone to comment on, anyone to voice on, you are playing a very grown up game, with all your 12 years of knowledge. The stuff you speak of is just that stuff you may very well never get anything back. But it was never yours in the first place. It was your dad's stuff and like his choice or not others made a decision about all that stuff. His stuff and where it is or isn't should not effect your life at 12 years old. It sounds like you grew up hearing gossip, who took what and why, and that gossip has influenced your thoughts. See a 12 year old doesn't really care about that stuff...I also know I lost both parents at one time to a drunk driver when I was 10 years old. I didn't care who got the screw driver, or the wrench all I wanted was my stuff. The things that made me happy like turttle, or tiger (the cat) or sunny (the d0g). At 10 the fact that my dad left behind a bunch of stuff didn't mean a thing to me. And I too had it together...I graduated from high school at 16 and college at 20. But I digress, as much as you don't think so...let the old people deal with the stuff, it isn't your fight. Its just left over influence from years of hearing where is his stuff, that and hard feelings. But those are grown folks hard feelings not yours do not burden yourself with those feelings, in the long run it isn't worth it. If the stuff is gone it is gone and if you don't have it it is gone. Be good fly high and keep reaching for those goals you have. Don't let your wings get clipped by all those hard feelings. Good luck.

— Karin Oct. 26, 2012 at 7:41 p.m.

Really!? My dad's tools and ALL of his stuff from the garage are at my aunt's house. Yeah I don't think so. . . YOU made those choices. YOU sold my dad's stuff! So don't flatter yourself. Yeah so janie just by you saying that my dad was the "love of your life" is a bunch of stupid crap you made up so you can cover your guilt and make everyone think your so innocent. But in reality, you are heartless. You did not have any right what so ever to sell any of that stuff. Yes I used to love you dearly but you blew it.

And let me ask you something. If you lost your dad at 9 years old and you couldn't a single thing about it how would you feel? And then when you would have to be pulled out of school not knowing what was going on and thinking it was something amazing when it turned out to be that you dad had just died. And all you had was pressure and feeling that you still had a dad. And all the people who actually loved him didn't even know what to do with themselves. Yeah. Janie even to this day, 3 years later. I feel like he is here, on earth. But is that true? No. So yeah think about that.

— Kaitlyn Coffey Oct. 20, 2012 at 2:06 a.m.

Thank you [box bob] I just wished Janie had not have sold anything behind my family's back. That really hurt me. (Thanks Janie :/ ) I know we all make mistakes and nobody's perfect but that was a BIG mistake even for her. I do however see that I only got 3 shirts, my old pj's, a calender, and a few other things. I just want Janie to know that my dad, Mike Leroy Coffey would be upset to know that she had sold everything just for profit. But I hope that everyone who got something from that garage sale keeps my dad's belongings safe and close to them. I talk to my daddy everyday and pray that he is watching over everyone (I) love. One other thing, I am SO happy that nobody other than me gets to have the remains of him. I'm not trying to sound selfish but he's MY dad and I have HIS genes in me. So yes, thank you again [box bob].

— Kaitlyn Coffey Oct. 8, 2012 at 10 p.m.